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Am I the ideal age to have sexual intercourse? In all honesty I am not sure and neither are a great many others. Each individual differs in mind and body, and because of this it results in everyone having a difference of an opinion on how they personally see themselves and to how they think. Although we have laws on the age of consent, more often than not the law is broken on a large scale. Children of the 21st century have attitude which they follow religiously when making a point. In our day attitude was never allowed into the equation. I often wonder was this a good or bad thing. Teenagers with a view become steadfast and fight the cause of what they have a view upon, and rightly so. Nonetheless if it involves sexual intercourse, then what we as parents do know for sure is, if you are not ready, aware or prepared then back to the days of old and forbid the teen attitude.

Most adults agree that 15 is not an ideal age to engage in teen sex. Being ready for sex has a lot more to do with maturity than how old you are. Sadly the teen sex experience is never really a doing – done with one solid partner, and this is the reason why you need to be aware of the dangers that can occur from having unprotected sex with different people. If you are fortunate and in a stable relationship then discuss your concerns and any issues you have with your partner before sexual intercourse. Ask yourself and partner are you both doing the right thing. Consider how having sex at an early age might affect your relationship. Does having sex mean the same thing to both of you? Talk to mom, she may not be happy – but she can certainly put you on the right track if you tend on going ahead regardless of what she says. Parents give support, however they will never encourage underage sex, but their need to protect will have them be there for you. So no more secrets and do the right thing. Tell your parents so as not to be looking over your shoulder all the time.

Why the decision to have sex early? Is it because you want to make your partner happy? Is it because you will feel more adult? Is it because your friends are doing it? These are not good enough reasons for losing your virginity. Remember sex doesn’t prove love. It doesn’t make you into a grown up, in fact you are more of an adult is you do the sensible thing and say no. And not everyone is having teen sex. Study shows 70 percent of 15-year-olds are still virgins.

Think contraception at every convenient moment. It only takes a moment to fall pregnant or catch a life threatening disease (STD). Go along to a family planning clinic and get protection to stay safe. Contraception is given freely along with advice. The age of consent differs for each country so check this out if you are a traveler who enjoys sex while on route.

The female condom is supposedly 79-95% effective. Its purpose is to protect against pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections, including HIV/AIDS. The condom is a thin, loose-fitting and flexible plastic tube placed inside the vagina. A soft ring at the closed end of the tube covers the cervix during intercourse and holds it inside the vagina. Another ring at the open end of the tube stays outside the vagina and partly covers the lip region.

The good news is that the female condom can be inserted into the vagina up to 8 hours before intercourse. If this is your first time using the female condom then you may find it awkward. To condom can be inserted sitting or lying down whichever is comfortable. Some women lubricate while working the condom into place. Follow instructions provided accordingly and you should have no problem with insertion.

Insertion, squeeze the ring at the closed end of the tube. Use one hand to spread the outer lips, and insert the squeezed condom into the vaginal canal. The inner ring should be urged past the pubic bone and over the cervix. It is vitally important that this process is not rushed; it can unsettle the condom which could result in the condom not doing the job it was created to do. Make sure the condom is not twisted. About one inch of the open end will stay outside the body. The outer ring will need to be held in place during intercourse. After intercourse, squeeze and twist the outer ring to keeping fluids inside. Slowly pull it out and discard immediately. If there were a possibility that the condom was not inserted correctly or slipped then you need take the necessary precaution of taking the “Morning After” Pill.

The pill is a regular method of contraception taken by women worldwide to prevent pregnancy. If you’re thinking of going on the pill your doctor will first have to determine if it is safe for you to take, e.g. any risk factors which would make you more liable to heart attacks or strokes. The pill is a tablet containing two female-type hormones – an oestrogen and progestogen. Various oestrogens and progestogens are used in some of the 22 different types of pill in the UK. The hormones halt ovulation. They also thicken secretions round the cervix making it more difficult for sperm to pass.

Sterilization and the contraceptive pill are both 100% effective. In the UK your prescription will include a pack containing 21 contraceptive pills. You take one every day for 21 days. Then you break for a week to allow for your period. In America it is not unusual for packs to contain 28 tablets – seven are ‘dummies.’ This is a fabulous idea for the forgetful. These are continually taken during the week’s break. In Britain dummy packs are referred to as ED (every day). Like most medications there are always the pluses and the downsides. The pill helps ease period pain, shortens your period with light loss. The pill has been connected to certain cancers. Speak to your doctor about this. The best precaution you can take to prevent an unwanted pregnancy or avoid visiting an STD clinic is to say “NO.”

Let the secret be known that teen sex is not a trendy behavior – nor will you be respected for all your sexual encounters. Do the sensible trendy thing, grow up and enjoy life and by doing this you gain respect from those who care about you.

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God in skin… This is how Sy Rogers would describe our purpose in serving God; to be as much as we can, God in skin, the personification of God, His character and approach to life – not sprouting Bible verses and frowning upon the pagans, but making a real difference in lives, acting in love and freed from the shackles of fear.

Sy’s seminar was rich with God’s everlasting truth, the latest scientific facts, a cogently real worldview, and an abundance of spiritual inspiration.

I want to focus on the following critical issues:

Jesus must be Lord of our sexual lives! By saying this, Sy means that when He is Lord, Jesus’ love is enough for us not to look to false, reinforced and well-learned and worldly patterns of behaviour. He makes no apologies for the well established Christian values, like no sex before marriage but he tells us we must be more dynamic in our approach, not simply resting on the standard Christian parental lecture. We are to have a full appreciation of all the (9) factors that come into play. For instance, we must be fully aware that when a young couple come together, they must understand the powerful forces at play to tempt them into sexual sin. When they employ the principle of delayed gratification, however, choosing Jesus as the Lord of their sexual lives, so much more of God’s available blessing will be made known to them, at the right time. The message: We must not covet something that God has not already chosen to give us!

‘God gives better bread!’ This is an awesome nugget of truth. Whilst sin does give us ‘bread’, it is temporary and always brings pain. In Sy’s experience having lived a life in what he termed as so sadly typical of thousands or even millions of others, that you ‘can be re-railed’ in choosing God as the lover of your soul. We must endeavour to ‘paint a more redemptive picture of God’, indeed, we must learn to ‘run to Him.’

God’s bread is so much better and fulfilling than that of any of the world’s bread, but if you said this to anyone deeply rooted in the world they would think you were mad. Is God acceptable of the repentant sinner or not? We erroneously think He is pious and non-approving of us; He just wishes us to love him so He can help us! He provides way better bread!

‘Scars are evidence of mending’ – it is blatantly obvious that one cannot be healed if one has never actually been scarred! Though, who among us is actually un-scarred? We all require healing and listening to Sy he is evidence that only God can heal completely. Only the love of Christ can do this, but the scars that carry on throughout the rest of our lives are a celebration, a testament, to the God-anointed healing that has occurred and continues to show itself over and over again!

‘Don’t keep the secret with Satan’ – this propels us toward the fact that the ‘you tell on it (the sin) or it will tell on you!’ philosophy actually works in life and describes the theory that all sin catches up with us eventually. It always does! Proverbs 1:7 and 9:10, fear of the Lord is what? – The beginning of understanding and wisdom. To be wise is to be obedient to the Lord, to revere Him by loving Him is the ultimate protection, that even if we fall a little, we must confess and repent! It is best to be always repentant.

‘Jesus is all you need!’ This is how to evangelise, right? WRONG!! So wrong… we are encouraged by Sy to be God in skin again. Sy illustrated this point by explaining how a pastor friend visited a couple grieving the loss of a family member. They don’t necessarily want a Biblical answer to comfort them as much as an arm around them a willingness to share in their sorrow (mourn with those who mourn). We know this is not the answer for every given situation but it is the Spirit of God that dictates our heart response in the given situation, not some cold way of evangelizing which is classically de-void of love! We are to be real people to those we serve, God’s anointed and appointed and indeed share our lives with those we serve (1 Thess. 2:8).

Sy’s advice is full of practicality. He says ‘God motivates – we re-train’… like how? First we must ‘know the equipment we are dealing with!’ This human brain of ours processes information at an incredible speed of between 1250-3000 words per minute — far quicker than we can cogitate! No wonder we react to certain situations (stimuli) at almost the speed of light! When our ‘button is pushed’ the locked in patterns of response dictate our reaction automatically.

Sy advocates the ‘however highway’ of the mind. This recognizes a different, healthier response is possible, through the re-training of the mind… and praise God that He will give us plenty of practice opportunities to develop a ‘deep ditch’ of programmed behaviour (this is ironically a somewhat sarcastic comment — because we know when we are re-training our minds there is a lot of discipline required — it is true that God will give us plenty of opportunity through testing (James 1:12) to bed in the new pattern of behaviour.) His key to this is to ‘not deny how you feel…’ it feels uncomfortable, painful, awkward… but ‘embrace it with the Lord!’

In paraphrasing Dr. Amen, Sy succinctly says ‘change your brain, change your life.’ Again, there is no better way to replace an old and ugly sinful habit than with a much more powerful and stronger, healthier habit. The ‘however highway’ in the mind can be used to substitute a sinful habit or behaviour with a more powerful, healthy behaviour – a road to blessing!

Sy’s theory of the nine (9) factors that go into determining the depth of estrangement/healing in life are split into three areas: the Biological, the Emotional/Relational, and the Spiritual. The reason why most churches and ministries fail believers, in responding to the issue of dealing with sexual sin, is they often only tackle one or two areas of the nine that Sy advocates. Clearly, we need to be so much more cognisant of the multi-faceted nature of the causes of this type of sin!

At the core of one’s ability to resist sin, says Sy, is the place the person is at as far as how mature and secure (in their own skin) they are.

I found Sy a complete breath of fresh air in evangelising in a truthful and practical way. One thing that reduces our credibility is the jargon we use. Sy encourages us to get real on the way we speak of God.

Other things Sy said…
- ‘We are born with an ‘empty cup’ but we’re full of potential…’
- ‘Accountability is love… is proof of love’
- Much of the modern world is like Sodom with electricity.
- Be deliberate about the process of mentoring and discipling in same gender groups.
- Resist Satan by obeying God – crucify the flesh!

(Words/phrases in quotation marks (and inspiration) are direct from Sy Rogers on July 20, 2005 at the Baptist Theological College of Western Australia (now Vose Seminary) before ~50 students and faculty.)

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Steve Wickham is a safety and health professional (BSc) and a qualified lay Christian minister (GradDipDiv). His key passion is work / life balance and re-creating value for living, and an exploration of the person within us. His highest goal is doing God’s will, in enhancing his life, and the lives of others.

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If you are in a healthy Christian relationship, then sex should be a mutually satisfying venture, where both couples should have the desire to initiate it. So what happens when your Christian wife won’t initiate sexual intimacy? It tends to leave the husband in an awkward position where he may feel that this shared intimacy is one-sided.

How to get my Christian wife to want to initiate sex?

1. First you want to make sure some basic satisfactions are being met. Is your wife really being satisfied sexually? Often times the reason why she won’t initiate intimacy, is because she isn’t fully being satisfied. This isn’t always the husbands fault, especially if he isn’t fully aware of it. The wife should take action herself and realize that sex is an amazing gift from God that should be experienced to the fullest and to the most enjoyable extent as possible. So work on really trying to please you wife during intimacy. See #3 for ways to accomplish this.

2. Erase the guilt factor. Many times there is this ingrained guilt attached to Christian sex. Even whether the person realizes it or not, guilt may be present and likely was a product of earlier experiences or teachings where sex was seen as something sinful. It can take a while to mature and finally realize that Christian sex is actually a joyous celebration and a very important part of a Christian relationship. But even realizing this, there may still lie some dormant guilt. Many times the wife will experience this dormant guilt, and won’t be able to initiate sex on her own. Once you realize this, you can begin to work at dispensing that guilt by introducing literature, lectures, and teachings to your wife that all speak about the underlying effects of Christian intimacy guilt.

3. Finally, the best way to tackle the issue of how to get your Christian wife to initiate sex, is simply by getting a Christian sex manual which deals with this issue, and many more. It can provide actual step by step methods which you can employ to increase wife sex initiation. It will also provide you with tons of new and exciting ways that you can satisfy your wife sexually. All these techniques are “Christian safe”, so any fears of sin or guilt will be negated.

Here is an excellent Christian Sex Manual specifically for Christian husbands – http://Christian-Intimacy.info

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Sex represents a hot topic for discussion for almost all pubescent individuals. Teenagers are truly interested in finding intriguing information about sex, sex positions, adult sex toys, orgasms, etc. Unfortunately they do not focus their attention on more important matters such as contraceptive methods and STDs. Teenagers rush into sexual activities as they consider sex a source of pleasure and fun. They do not think about undesired pregnancy, HIV/AIDS or emotional sufferings. This is the hugest mistake young people make when it comes to sex related issues. In fact there is so much to think and worry about before a teenager takes the decision to engage in sex.
Apropos, do you really understand what sex is?

Virtually, sex is not:

• a modality to make somebody love, respect or make a commitment to another person;
• a way to show a partner your love and devotion;
• a measure of one’s maturity;
• a perfect way to gain independence;
• a leisure activity;
• always pleasant and enjoyable, etc

In reality, sex deals with:

• physical and emotional states of an individual;
• many risks (risk to get pregnant or catch an STD, for instance);
• moral bruises, destroyed ego;
• virginity and its loss;
• responsibilities concerning one’s future life and health;
• embarrassing noises, messy and strange sensations, etc.

If a teenager is sexually active he/she should be familiar with the main ‘must dos’ about sex:

If teenagers (ladies, especially) aren’t willing to become expectant parents they should use birth control methods. If the contraceptive methods are used correctly and consistently, the likelihood of getting pregnant decreases significantly.

Sexually active teenagers are recommended to use condoms, as they represent the only protection against STDs. Even if partners use something else for birth control, they must necessarily resort to male or female condoms.

Many STDs, including HIV/AIDS can be easily transmitted orally. This is the reason why partners should also use condoms or dental dams (oral dams) like barrier methods for this kind of sex.

Protection against STDs and birth control methods should be used properly to be effective.

If you are not ready to proceed further, it is okay to say ‘NO’ or ‘STOP’ at any point. If one partner feels pain or emotional discomfort, another participant should voluntary stop the session or the foreplay [http://www.add-articles.com/Article/Foreplay---The-Blessed-Way-Towards-The-Realm-of-Orgasms-/206938].

Teenagers can get pregnant or catch an STD the very first time they have unsafe sex.
Teens should engage in sex if they are sure their relationship relies on trust, respect, confidence and love. Moreover, it is quite difficult to make the difference between noble feelings and lust. This could be a significant reason for couples to prolong the time before they will engage in sex.

Sex plays a significant role in one’s life. It comes with enormous pleasure, fun and new sensations. Often this practice is accompanied by lots of risks and health problems that stem from teenagers’ carelessness and ignorance. This is the reason why young individuals should ponder about their sexual life and maintain it in order from the very beginning. Good luck!

Xenia Blanchett, a sexologist, author, relationship educator, advice columnist and psychologist. Discover your sexuality to the fullest extend.

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The beginnings of sexual awareness

“Daddy, why is the sky blue?” “Mummy, where does the sun go at night?” And then suddenly, like a bolt from the blue – “Mummy, where do babies come from?” This question usually leaves parents squirming with embarrassment and trying to pass the buck to the other parent. Teaching children the facts of life, telling them about the birds and the bees, is something that most parents are not very comfortable with. Actually, this is a very narrow view of sex education. It is not just about having an embarrassing, private talk with your child or giving them a book or their being given a lecture in school complete with diagrams. Sex does not begin and end with intercourse. Intercourse could be said to be the most intimate way in which men and women relate to each other. However, it is merely one aspect of the relationship between men and women. In fact, children are learning about sexuality from the time they can spot the difference between boys and girls. They also get cues from the different ways in which parents relate to sons and daughters and the way in which parents interact with each other. Thus, children whose parents have a bad marriage will find it very difficult to contemplate that sexual intercourse is built on love and mutual respect.

“Where do babies come from?”

Parents can expect the ‘dreaded’ question about the origins of babies around the age of three. The question stems from natural curiosity. Parents should keep in mind that a three-year-old’s level of understanding is quite simplistic. The child is too young to understand the concept of sexuality. The child will probably be satisfied if the mother says that the baby grows in a special place in her body called the uterus or womb and comes out after nine months. The next question is probably going to be – “How did the baby get in?” The only way a child is aware of about how things get in is through eating. Thus, a simple answer explaining that the baby grows from a tiny seed implanted in the uterus should suffice. If children want to know the father’s role in the process, mothers can explain that the father put the seed inside the mother. As for how the babies get out, children can be told that once the baby has grown enough inside the mother it comes out from a special opening called the vagina. It may be a good idea to specify that this opening is different from those for urination and defecation.

Sex education is something that happens in stages. A three-year-old child might be satisfied when he is simply told that the father provides the seed that grows into a baby. However, by the time he is five, he might want to know how exactly it got there. Here again, parents should remember to keep it simple. After all, he is only five. Explain to him that the seed comes out of the father’s penis and is deposited in the uterus where the baby will grow for the next nine months.

Some children don’t bring up the topic at all. Parents of such children assume that their children are particularly innocent. But in all likelihood, parents of these children have made them feel, probably unintentionally, that the question of how babies are made is somehow taboo and not open to discussion. Such parents should keep their ears open for indirect questions, hints and jokes that indicate that the child is curious but afraid to ask a direct question. For instance, a little boy may constantly poke fun at his pregnant mother saying that she is fat or a little girl may ask her mother how their dog had puppies. Parents should realize that their children are diffident about asking them questions directly and seize these opportunities to explain a little bit about human reproduction.

Some parents prefer fiction to fact when discussing sex with their children. A common euphemism used by parents is that a stork or an angel brought the baby. Such stories tend to backfire because the child can see the evidence of the baby growing in his mother’s stomach every day. The child immediately senses that his parents are being evasive about the issue and he is bound to find out the truth sooner or later. Parents are in danger of losing his trust because he is not sure when they might chose to lie or tell him half-truths again. In addition, the question of how babies are made acquires considerable significance highlighted by the parent’s nervous and sheepish approach. He gets the message that the topic is something to be embarrassed about. Another outcome of this approach is that the child may hesitate to discuss things that bother him with his parents in the future because he is not sure of the response he will get.

Adolescents and sex

Parents who have passed the “where do babies come from?” stage usually heave a sigh of relief, thinking that’s the end of that. But the topic of sex is bound to rear its head once again when their children hit puberty. This is the stage in life when girl’s breasts begin to develop, their hips widen and they begin to menstruate. Boys see an increase in body hair, their voices crack, their penises and testicles grow and they begin to have nocturnal emissions or “wet dreams.” Suddenly sons and daughters become impossible to cope with. They are constantly touchy and irritable, they seem to glory in being contrary and love playing the rebel. This is the stage when most parents wish their children were babies again.

Most adolescents become very conscious and sensitive about the way they look and the changes in their bodies. Parents need to help their children adjust to their sexually maturing and changing bodies. This is the stage in life when children need to be informed about sexuality, the sexual act and its consequences. Some teenagers may bring up the topic themselves directly or indirectly. Sometimes parents may have to take the initiative to broach the subject. If as a parent, one is diffident about discussing such a private topic with one’s child, tell him or her the way you feel. This will serve to put both parent and child at ease.

Menstruation

Menstruation marks the onset of puberty in girls. Sometimes girls begin to menstruate before they have been told or are aware of what it means. One can only imagine how a young girl feels when she discovers that she is bleeding and has no idea what is happening. That is why it is essential that mothers discuss menstruation and its implications with their daughters around the time they expect the girls to begin menstruating. The tone that mothers take when talking about menstruation will affect their daughters’ attitudes to it. Some mothers describe it as a curse; some mothers are embarrassed and use ‘code words’ to refer to it, others emphasize that this is a ‘delicate’ period for women. The fact is that menstruation is a normal bodily process and does not in any way prevent a woman from carrying on with her daily routine. While some women do experience cramps, a bloated feeling and tender breasts, these symptoms are rarely severe enough to bring life to a standstill. When a girl is on the threshold of womanhood she should not be feeling scared, embarrassed or resentful. Mothers should give their daughters the impression that menstruation is a rite of passage, a part of growing up and something to be looked forward to.

Nocturnal emissions

Once boys have reached the age of puberty, they begin to get erections and nocturnal emissions. It is important that they realize that this is perfectly normal and nothing to be ashamed of. Nocturnal emissions or “wet dreams” are the result of the ejaculation of semen during sleep often caused by a dream of a sexual nature. They may also have strong urges to masturbate. All this is perfectly natural. Parents should be careful that they do not give their sons or daughters the feeling that masturbation and erotic dreams are “dirty” or unnatural. The more matter-of-fact parents are about it, the more healthy their children’s attitudes will be towards it.

It’s not just physical

It is important that children are made to understand the emotional aspects of sex. Thus, while most schools usually organize a lecture on the topic, these talks tend to be quite clinical and impersonal and confine themselves to the physicality of sex. Teenagers need to understand that the decision to become sexually active should not be a casual one. A person’s first sexual experience is an event of great personal significance and should happen when he or she is ready for it. Parents should explain to their children that they may be attracted to several people in their lives, some may be mere infatuations while others may develop into long-term relationships. Teenagers should realize that their bodies are their own to do with as they see fit, according to their desires and after exercising sound judgement. However, they should never have sex or engage in any other form of physical contact under pressure from another person, or to please someone else. There is a common misconception among parents that open communication about sexual feelings and the sexual act will have the effect of increasing the likelihood of young people becoming sexually active. On the contrary, parents who discuss sex openly, in a natural manner, are merely equipping their children with the requisite knowledge so that whenever they decide that they are ready to become sexually active, they will be making an informed decision and understand its consequences. Many children go through life with warped ideas about sex merely because their parents were too embarrassed to talk about it. Such children are left to gather information piecemeal from friends, books and the media and the conclusions they draw need not necessarily be the right ones.

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Sex Education

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How are your kids learning about sex?

Have you been dodging those probing questions in the hope that the school will teach your child about sex?

If you have, then you are not alone. A large portion of parents leave the sex education to the schools, because they find the subject uncomfortable and it is easier to say nothing than to say something.

But the truth is, to say nothing is to say a lot!

Whether you like it or not, you as the parent are the child’s sex educator and they have been learning from you the day they were born.

The schools teach anatomy, contraception, sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy and there is so much more to sex education than that. The moral and emotional aspects of sex have to be addressed and this can only be done at home.

Most parents don’t realize it but they are constantly teaching, not only by what they say, but how they act, say and do.

So when is the right time to have that birds and bees chat?

Never! Sex education for kids should start from when your child is born. So, by the time the schools get around to teaching the anatomy, your child should already be fully educated, with a large focus on the moral and emotional aspects.

Many studies in the past have confirmed that parents think they discuss sex much more with their kids, than the kids say they do. So forget about thinking that one talk about the birds and the bees is enough. Communication must be ongoing, but also consider what kind of an example you set with your own actions. Television viewing, reading habits, your talk about the opposite or same sex, your nakedness and privacy all add to the sex education of your child.

And remember we said that sex education starts from when the child is born? They observe your actions, they listen to your words and they form their own ideas. Begin your discussions early. If you haven’t brought up sexuality subjects with your kids by the time they are 10 they will think they are taboo and shouldn’t be discussed.

Take advantage of teachable moments like TV programs, billboards, pregnancy’s, animal mating, etc. These are great opportunities not to be missed and never think your child is too young, just don’t overload them with too much information. A simple, to the point, but honest answer will go a long way to answering their questions and correcting their ideas.

Be aware of the question behind the question. Often your child is asking “Am I normal?” They need reassuring that other kids ask the same question and they are in fact normal. Encourage them to ask more questions.

Children, between the ages of 8 and 12, worry about their development. Boys may worry about their penis size and girls their breast size. These worries mostly come from discussions at school and they will need reassuring from their parents. Children grow, mature and develop at wildly different rates.

And when those questions come, get emotional. Talk about the mechanics, but don’t forget the unhealthy aspects, like unwanted pregnancies and disease. Children also need to know about the emotional aspects and what makes a health, caring relationship.

Sex education is so much more than talking about the nuts and bolts. It is about constant education while the child grows up. This will set up a strong moral framework that they can take into adulthood.

If you have been open and honest with your child’s questions since the beginning, it will form that almost magical loving bond. It will encourage your child to come to you with any question in the future. The best place for your child to learn about relationships, love, commitment and respect is from you.

Why do some parents seem to have that magical loving relationship with their kids? Ian McConnell has 2 boys, 10 and 13, and he has come to realize that open, honest and timely sex education for kids is the catalyst that grows this magical bond. More details here => http://www.info-gal.com/sex_education_for_kids.html

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The Question: I recently broke up with my boyfriend and father of my 2 year old daughter. I’m 35 and he’s 28. He is now seeing a 22 year old girl for the use of her truck – I believe. He says that he still loves me (maybe just for the sex) and we have continued to have sex since breaking up. He is, however, very irresponsible in a relationship. The sex is great between us and I have a hard time turning him down because I do still love him. I think that I may want him back because I can’t stand to see him with someone else or to think that he is sleeping with another person.

Should I stay with him just for the sex? Or should I make him make a choice of getting no sex unless he’s willing to make the relationship work between us? What should I do?

The Answer: Our answer to this question may seem controversial to some, but here goes…

What is a relationship?

A relationship can be defined as “a state of connectedness between people”. Because of the fact that the two of you have a child together, you will always have a parental relationship and parental responsibilities. The choice that each of you have to make is what type of relationship you want in addition to being the parents of your daughter.

Here are just a few ideas:

An intimate relationship is a relationship with a great deal of physical and/or emotional intimacy – romantic or passionate love and attachment with or without sex.

A casual relationship (sometimes referred to as “friends with benefits”) is the physical and emotional relationship between two unmarried people who have a sexual relationship or a near-sexual relationship without necessarily demanding or expecting a more formal relationship as a goal.

Friendship, is a relationship that results when two people have found a common ground and consists of mutual love, trust, respect, and unconditional acceptance of one another.

I recommend that the two of you have a heart to heart, open and honest discussion about what you both want and are willing to accept around your relationship as adults and your relationship as parents.

It is critical to check your ego at the door.

We have been known to use a code word or a physical object to use as a flag when someone’s ego starts flaring up. Once that happens, any intelligent conversation is over. If someone’s ego takes over the conversation (you’ll know when this happens by tone and number of snipes the other person starts making), take a 15 minute break in separate rooms to allow yourselves to cool down. And then resume the conversation.

A brief discussion on jealousy.

Jealousy can be defined as “a boundary-setting custom developed for limiting sexual access to those relationships that a group defines as important.” It’s that feeling of fear, suspicion, or envy over something you perceive as your possession.

I’m going to get on my soap box for a moment here…

In modern society, many people mistake a romantic relationship, for a purchase contract. If we could simply understand that we do not and should not ‘own’ or try to control another person, there would be no jealously.

Jealousy is a very primitive emotion based entirely on fear and the desire to control other people and their actions – When in reality, the only real control that we have is over ourselves and our actions.

Jealousy and fear are engrained in our society and encouraged by governments and religions to exercise control over the population. That’s why when you get married, you sign a “marriage contract“, to take possession of your spouse… (I warned you this was going to be a little controversial.)

Here’s an idea. Try replacing jealousy, control, and ownership with forgiveness, acceptance, and unconditional love in all of your relationships. You’ll be much happier in all areas of your life once you let go of fear and wanting to control others. Really – give it a try…

Staying with him just for sex.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having sex just for the sake of good sex! IF you’re both emotionally mature enough to enjoy it without feeling guilty or trying to make the other person feel guilty.

Take a step back to understand the reasons that you want to have sex with each other. Are you trying to fill an emotional void? Trying to hold on to previous feeling about each other? Do you simply enjoy it? What are your personal reasons? Make sure they resonate true to you and actually bring you joy. Don’t do it for the wrong reasons.

Making him choose between sex and relationship.

My advice on this one – Don’t ever push a man, or anyone else, into a corner by forcing a decision like that, they’ll run every time .

Instead, take some time to REALLY get to know each other on an honest and very deep level. This is that heart to heart discussion that I mentioned at the beginning.

If you can’t be honest with each other, you lose from the beginning.

In summary…

• Spend some time with yourself to understand what you really want out of the relationship.
• Talk to each other openly and honestly about what type of relationship your both want and will agree upon – and stick to it.
• Replace jealousy, control, and ownership with forgiveness, acceptance, and unconditional love.

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Safer sex means avoiding the body fluids such as the semen, vaginal juices and blood to enter the other partner’s body so as to protect from sexually transmitted diseases. Diseases such as hepatitis and HIV can be transmitted in body fluids through an infected person during sexual activity. A person can be infected with these diseases, if body fluids from an infected person enter the vagina, anus or mouth.

Going for safe sex is a mature act by the partners as it not only protects you but all those who have any kind of physical intercourse with you. It protects the sex partners from the incurable sexually transmitted diseases. Your child too is at a risk when you do not have safe sex as being pregnant can harm your unborn baby as well as when you are feeding the baby if you are infected with the virus.

Steps for safe sex:

o During sexual practices people also use object or sex toys. These objects and sex toys should be clean and not break during the sexual practice. They should not have sharp edges and should not be shared.

o For safe sex it is essential for the partners to sit together and discuss what birth control methods they would opt for.

o Discuss if either of the partner is at a risk of an STI. Although it is a delicate and difficult issue to talk on, yet it is crucial.

o It is also important to be honest with each other and equally important to be frank with each other and inform if anyone of the partners is sexually infected. Generally people hesitate and do not tell their sex partners about it if they have an HIV or STI which put the other partner too at a risk.

o Sharing needles for drug steroids or tattooing is most dangerous as it leads to blood to blood contact that is a direct route of HIV transmission. Do not share needles as you are at a high risk of being infected with the HIV virus.

o People should avoid heaving drinking as it affects a person’s decision making and often results in unplanned sex that is not safe.

o Always make sure to use condoms during sex as they protect you from being pregnant and sexually transmitted diseases.

o If you do not have complete idea and knowledge about safe sex and sexually transmitted diseases then consult your friends and find out about it.

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Turkish Sexuality Survey Question —
From whom did you receive your first sexual information?

Headlines from Hürriyet Newspaper’s Sexuality Survey of 2005…

Jim and (co-author) Perihan Masters are a husband and wife team, living on the Aegean Coast of Turkey just 50 miles south of Izmir. Jim was born in Shanghai, China — of American military parentage. Peri was born on the Black Sea coast of Turkey near Trabzon, of Turkish military parentage…Enticed by a Financial Times advertisement, Jim joined a NATO sponsored enterprise in Ankara in 1974 where he met the beautiful and brainy Perihan, a rising young Turkish banking executive. Settled now in the heart of what was once the ancient Ionian Empire — the couple live an idyllic life by the sea.. writing, drawing and painting, teaching English, and providing computing service support to local businesses. They also sponsor the MSNBC award-winning Learning Practical Turkish Website which has built an enthusiastic international following of devoted Turkophiles and inquisitive language students of all ages.

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If you think that all men are horny creatures which have nothing much else but sex on their minds, then you may have been mistaken because there is a large group of men and the group is getting bigger is that as far as they are concerned, sex could be the last thing on their minds.

Surprised? Not at all, because these men are suffering from low libido or low sex drive.

There are many reasons why they are suffering from low libido or even no sexual urges at all. To the detriment of these men, not only they are not able to enjoy normal sexual life, they may also not be able to satisfy their spouses or sexual partners causing unhappiness leading to divorces and breakups.

So let us take a look at the causes of low sex drive and then check out the remedies that can correct this male deficiency.

Low sex drive can be triggered off by psychological, emotional and physical causes. Just any single one of these factors will sometimes be enough to shut off a person’s sex drive, whether you are a man or a woman. Very unfortunately, some men may even have a combination of all these trigger factors thus compounding their sexual health problems.

Anxiety, depression, stress and many other negative emotions such as hatred, anger and unhappiness are known psychological and emotional causes of low sex drive irrespective of gender. The trouble is that as far as men are concerned, these factors not only make them have lower sex drive, they may also cause impotency or commonly known as erectile dysfunction causing their male sexual health to take another downward spin which can be very demoralising.

On the physical aspect of this phenomenon, the testosterone level of men decline correspondingly as they age. Testosterone is commonly called the “male sex hormone” for a reason. This predominantly male hormone is responsible for giving men their manly attributes, features and characteristics. It is also responsible for the male sex drive, ability to get good erections, building strength and muscles, maintaining bone density, increasing mental alertness and many other positive health benefits.

Unfortunately, the production of this almost amazing hormone start to decline in your twenties and the decline is unceasing year after year. That could be the reason why more mature men suffer from loss of libido and erectile dysfunction although younger men can also be victims too.

So what are the remedies to increase male sex drive? On the emotional and psychological aspect, by removing the root causes will help immediately. On the physical aspect, make your body produce more testosterone.

Enhancing testosterone production can be achieved by eating healthy meals that are rich in proteins, low to moderate in carbohydrates and fats. We all know the reasons for eating low fat meals but why limit carbohydrates too?

This is because carbohydrates, especially those that are of the high glycemic variety like sugary food and drinks, confectionaries can cause an increased level of insulin and cortisol in the bloodstream which will affect your testosterone production negatively.

To boost your testosterone level even further, start a regular exercise program. Start a bodybuilding program if you can. The reason is because when you do weight lifting to build muscles, your body needs to produce more testosterone so that it can help your muscles to repair itself and grow bigger and stronger.

If you are thinking of expensive and risky testosterone replacement program, you may wish to consider supplementing your diet with natural herbal testosterone enhancing pills instead. There are many natural supplements you can take that encourage your body to produce more of your own testosterone.

So the remedies to increase sex drive is to be happy, have more positive emotions, eat and sleep healthily, exercise regularly and supplementing with testosterone enhancers and become the stud that is in you.

Chris Chew is a health and fitness consultant and said that if you want to increase sex drive, then read How to improve male sex drive and Sex aphrodisiacs and become a steamy hot stud!

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